My name is Lucy Edwards. I am a presenter, YouTuber, journalist, and speaker. I am a ‘chatty Cathy’ who loves to share my experiences and get the most out of life. I am usually accompanied by my adorable guide dog Olga who, by the way, has just turned 8 years old. I don’t know where the time goes!

 

I met my fiancé, Ollie, before I lost my sight, so I know what he looks like, but the nature of my sexual attraction toward him has changed now that I'm blind. It now works on more of an emotional level. I like flirty language, and smell also plays a huge factor. I love him wearing an aftershave that smells nice and the scent of his T-shirt when it's washed with lavender.

 

When it comes to celebrities, I find voices attractive, and always say to Ollie that I like actors with Irish accents. I also take my sister's opinion about things of that nature more seriously now, and she lets me know if a celeb is good-looking or not. Some people assume that blind girls will just like anyone because we can't see, but this is so wrong. In recent years, when people have hit on me in pubs, I've sometimes questioned if it's because they think the fact I'm blind makes me easy. This simply isn't true.

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The greatest secret to ecstatic intimacy is one that is seldom understood and appreciated by the visual world. The best sexual experiences occur when partners fully stimulate each other in all ways and dimensions. For me, because I do not see the ways that a sighted person may communicate with me in terms of visual cues, I am erotically stimulated by touch, taste, aromas, pleasure, pain, and intuition. I am readily aroused by an encounter where I can take my time stimulating a partner in all ways and dimensions, and be stimulated likewise in return.

 

Spending quality time being intimate is vital for my satisfaction, whether in a casual or serious relationship. While my need for physical touch, exploration, and quality time in intimacy has been misunderstood by the sighted world as clingy and needy, if I am not properly stimulated, I become depressed and withdraw, because the change in the frequency of affection upsets my internal balance and the feeling of security I receive from the intense feelings of intimate bonding.